The recent fires in Southern California have me thinking about couples whose weddings are impacted by natural disasters. As a professional wedding planner, I know how heartbreaking this can be. Here are seven steps to help you confidently navigate this difficult time.

• Take a Moment to Process: It’s okay to feel disappointed, upset, or even angry. Take some time to acknowledge your emotions. This is a tough situation, and it’s normal to grieve the plans you worked so hard on. And, don’t let anyone tell you that you’re selfish for having those feelings.

• Seek Wise Counsel: Before you agree to anything, talk to your wedding planner. They should be able to guide you through your next steps. Review your venue and vendor contracts wit someone whom you trust, such as an attorney and reach out to your insurance agent to discuss what is covered in your wedding or event insurance.

• Assess the Damage: Take some time to take stock of the situation. This will help you understand your next steps. 1.) Are you emotionally prepared to move forward? Don’t minimize the trauma you are experiencing. Was the venue damaged? Can vendors still fulfill their contracts? Is it safe for your guests to attend? This will help you understand your next steps.

• Communicate with Your Vendors: Start with your wedding planner and wedding venue first. They’ve likely dealt with similar situations before and can guide you through postponements, cancellations, or adjustments. After you discuss the situation with them, immediately reach out to the rest of your wedding vendors. And, I encourage you to extend grace to your vendors as you await their response. They may be navigating similar challenges themselves or working to assist other couples in the same situation.

• Consider Rescheduling Options: Sit down with your fiance’/fiancee and your immediate family to discuss your next steps. Some advisors will recommend that you reschedule your wedding, instead possible, consider rescheduling. Many venues and vendors are understanding during disasters and may offer flexibility. Remember: your marriage is the focus, and the celebration can happen later.

• Keep Your Wedding Guests in the Loop: Remember to update your wedding web site with clear information. Ask a family member or a member of your wedding party to help you out with guest communication. They should let your guests know if your wedding or event is canceled or postponed. If you have new event details, they can communicate that information too. They can also share how your guests can help or support you during this difficult time.

• Lean On Your Support System: I know it’s hard when you feel upset, but I encourage you to accept all of the mental and physical assistance and support that you can get. Family, friends and your wedding team are here for you. Don’t be afraid to lean on them to help you manage stress or tackle the logistics.

You are not alone. Remember that your wedding day is a symbol of love, and love can’t be ruined by a storm, a fire, or any other type of natural disaster. Take things one step at a time.

Love and Soul Always, Kawania

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